How Not to Let Your Family Squeeze

By
Jeff Motske, CFP®
October 8, 2018
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Your Financial Future Family ties are amazing. These connections, based in DNA, history and genuine care, can prompt many to support their loved ones through times of need, be it emotional, physical and even financial. It is natural to want to support your family, but the players involved can double (or even triple or quadruple in cases of blended families), increasing the financial strain. Since these familial situations can snowball quite quickly, I urge you to focus first on your own financial independence and be sure not to let your parents and your children squeeze your financial future. While many hate to be a burden on their family, it’s actually quite common for people to financially assist other family members. According to Ameritrade’s Financial Support Study, one-fifth of Americans are Financial Supporters, meaning they provide financial support to a parent and/or an adult child.1 A survey conducted by GoBankingRates found that 63 percent of children plan to financially support their parents in some way once they retire.2 On the other end, parents are also financially supporting their grown children. Per Financial Planning OWS, 24% are helping with rent and 39% are paying cell phone bills.3

My primary advice is to always pay yourself first. Be sure to establish a healthy emergency fund and contribute to your retirement. It’s similar to what you hear on airplanes about placing the oxygen mask on yourself before placing it on others. You need to be sure that you are fiscally secure before you provide for those who are financially struggling. This is very sound, logical advice, which can be difficult to follow once emotions come into play.

Most of the decisions I see my clients struggle with are when the emotional and the financials are at odds. When your daughter wants to go to that expensive, out-of-state college that you didn’t save enough for, it’s tempting to try to make it work, whatever means necessary. Or perhaps your son is going through a costly divorce, and the only way you feel you can support him and ensure you see your grandkids is to borrow from your retirement to hire him a good lawyer. These are the moments when you need to be able to tell your child and yourself, “No”. In most cases, there are other options and alternatives in place. They may not be the dream situation, but they will still get the job done. Don’t sacrifice your future for your child’s dream, no matter how compelling. Don’t let emotions cloud good judgment.

On the other end of the spectrum, is a harsh reality. When dealing with parents who may not have planned sufficiently or are in the midst of a financial crisis, be sure that you are communicating as one adult to another. If possible, you may want to tackle those financial conversations early. Some of these difficult financial conversations with parents are tied to medical issues, so be sure to discuss before physical situations become dire.

When you find yourself in the midst of these difficult situations, please don’t forget about your support system. Your financial advisor can act as an unbiased referee in moments of disagreement or emotional struggle. They will likely remember the important financial issues that may slip your mind and will be ruled by numbers rather than nostalgia. At the moments when you need a pragmatic perspective to shine through the cloud of emotions, a trusted financial advisor can be invaluable.

In a time where many people find themselves part of the Sandwich Generation, taking on financial burdens can seem inevitable. Yet, so much can be avoided and accomplished when you act in advance. Start chatting with mom and dad while they’re still in good physical and financial health. Start saving for colleges as early as possible. When you’re proactive, you can prepare. When you’re reactive, people and finances can take a hit.

  1. https://s1.q4cdn.com/959385532/files/doc_downloads/research/TDA-Financial-Support-Study-2015.pdf
  2. https://www.gobankingrates.com/retirement/planning/kids-plan-financially-support-parents-retirement/
  3. https://www.forbes.com/sites/carolynrosenblatt/2018/07/09/aging-parents-helping-adult-children-financially-unhealthy-results/#321bb1e2ef39

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By
David McDonough
May 31, 2019

It’s graduation season, and there’s an excitement in the air about starting a new chapter. Mixed in with this excitement is an element of stress to make the right decisions: decisions on how things should be done, when they should be done and where they should be done. All these decisions are common, but they often distract from the purpose of what comes after high school.

We need to remember that higher education has a purpose. It’s more than an experience. The purpose of a college degree is employment. It is an investment, and as with any other investment, you should be calculating the return on that investment.  Spending $100,000 for a degree that secures a job with an annual salary of $40,000 is not the best rate of return.

There are plenty of creative ways to get a great college education without breaking the bank. Parents can start a 529 plan, the earlier the better, to help cover costs. Students can begin their higher education at a community college or secure college credit via Advance Placement (AP) exams. Additionally, students need to be sure that the field they are spending their time and energy on is going to reciprocate by providing solid career opportunities.

Making the wrong decision is not simply an unwise financial move. It can have lasting implications. Recent figures show that outstanding student loan debt has reached $1.5 trillion[i]. Our younger generation is not only struggling under this debt, they are also pushing off other personal and financial milestones, such as purchasing a house[ii], getting married or starting a family[iii]. These decisions can have long-lasting and far-reaching consequences.

Lastly, let’s not forget the countless parents who put their path to financial independence on hold to financially assist their struggling children. While wanting to financially help your loved ones is admirable, it helps no one to offer assistance at the expense of your own security. Just like when traveling by airplane, you need to put your own oxygen mask on and secure your safety first before aiding others. There are no scholarships for retirement, and you won’t have a financial safety net for the future if you don’t work towards creating it now.

College is truly an exciting time. Our young adults are learning who they are, where they want to go and how they intend to get there. At the same time, we cannot forget that college is a fleeting moment, one that is meant to arm the student with the tools needed to create a brighter and more successful future. Be sure to chat with your students to ensure that this experience does just that, rather than straddle these students with debt and stress.

[i] https://www.marketwatch.com/story/student-debt-just-hit-15-trillion-2018-05-08

[ii] https://www.businessinsider.com/student-debt-preventing-the-us-from-having-normal-housing-market-2019-5

[iii] https://www.bankrate.com/loans/student-loans/student-loans-survey-february-2019/

The opinions voiced in this material are for general information only and are not intended to provide specific advice or recommendations for any individual.

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The opinions voiced in this material are for general information only and are not intended to provide specific advice or recommendations for any individual.

Prior to investing in a 529 Plan investors should consider whether the investor's or designated beneficiary's home state offers any state tax or other state benefits such as financial aid, scholarship funds, and protection from creditors that are only available for investments in such state's qualified tuition program. Withdrawals used for qualified expenses are federally tax free. Tax treatment at the state level may vary. Please consult with your tax advisor before investing.

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By Trilogy Financial
February 20, 2024

Have you ever envisioned a life of Financial Freedom and Leisure?

Have you ever envisioned a life where the chains of daily grind are broken well before the conventional retirement age, paving the way for a life of financial freedom and leisure? Embracing financial discipline and frugality can pave the way to a comfortable early retirement, answering the pressing question: Can meticulous financial planning and a frugal lifestyle significantly hasten your journey to early retirement?

 

 

What Makes Financial Planning Crucial?

 

Financial planning goes beyond merely saving a portion of your income; it's about understanding and rectifying financial bad habits that may impede your journey towards financial stability. Everyday financial misbehaviors such as impulsive spending, credit card debt, and the lack of a structured financial plan for emergencies often go unnoticed but have a long-term detrimental impact on financial health. Addressing these personal finance habits is the first step in financial planning.

 

  • Why is Debt Management Essential? A key aspect of financial planning involves managing or eliminating debt, which can otherwise consume a significant portion of your income in the form of interest payments.
    • Did you know in the US for 50-59-year-olds the average debt is $23,719 1.
  • How Can Budgeting Secure Your Financial Future? Being unsure of where your money is going is a red flag. Budgeting is crucial to track and control spending, ensuring your expenditures align with your values.
    • Did you know the average individual aged between 65 to 74 spends about $55,000 on living expenses annually​2​.
  • How do Savings and Investments Impact Your Retirement Goals? Setting aside money for an emergency fund and future investments is essential. Automating this process by having a portion of your income transferred to savings or investment accounts can help in cultivating this good financial habit.
    • Americans believe they need an average of $1.7 million to retire comfortably, although many won't accumulate enough net worth to retire​3​.
    • As of 2019, only 11% of Baby Boomers managed to save up to $500,000 for their retirement​2​.

 

 

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What Does Adopting a Frugal Lifestyle Entail?

Frugality is about making informed and restrained financial decisions to save money. A frugal lifestyle encourages avoiding unnecessary expenses and finding value in what you spend.

 

  • Examples of frugal practices include avoiding spending triggers like malls or online shopping platforms, utilizing cash over credit to prevent overspending, and finding cost-effective alternatives for everyday expenses.

 

 

Did you know 20% of Americans don’t save any amount of their yearly income, and 42% have less than $10,000 saved for retirement​4​.

 

What are the Key Components of Financial Planning for Early Retirement?

 

  • Emergency Fund: Ensuring you have an emergency fund can help buffer against unforeseen circumstances like a job loss or medical crisis, which might otherwise derail your financial plans.
  • Investment Strategy: Diversifying your investments and aligning them with your retirement goals is imperative for financial growth.
    • 84% of Americans have a higher income than their parents did at the same age, indicating potential for savings and investment if managed wisely​4​.
  • Tax Planning: Efficient tax planning can help in preserving your wealth and ensuring more of your money is working for you rather than going towards taxes.
  • Healthcare Planning: As healthcare costs can be exorbitant, planning for these expenses is crucial to avoid financial strain in later years.
    • Healthcare can be a significant part of living expenses, as seen in the $55,000 annual spending for individuals aged 65-74​5.

 

Which Tools and Resources Can Aid Your Financial Planning Journey?

 

There are myriad tools and resources available to aid in your financial planning journey. Budgeting apps, financial advisors, and online courses are excellent resources. Trilogy Financial, for instance, offers a Decision Coach program designed to provide additional accountability and coaching to individuals seeking financial guidance.

  • 37% of workers aged 25 and older, and 19% of retirees, report not knowing where to go for financial or retirement planning advice​5​.

Easily Meet with a Certified Financial Planner.

 

 

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How Have Others Achieved Financial Independence and Early Retirement?

 

The quest for early retirement often begins with a thorough re-evaluation of one's financial plan, identifying areas of improvement, and capitalizing on unforeseen savings opportunities. The year 2020 saw many Americans saving more, with an average of 10% more money saved compared to 2019, mainly due to lifestyle changes induced by the pandemic. Some redirected these savings towards home improvements, while others saw it as a stepping stone towards drafting a solid financial plan aimed at debt reduction, college planning, or accelerating the journey to financial independence.

 

Various individuals and communities dedicated to frugal living and meticulous financial planning have emerged over the years, showcasing diverse pathways to early retirement. Here are a few noteworthy examples:

 

 

 

  • Juan's Early Retirement Ambition: Juan, an aspiring early retiree, aimed to bid farewell to his federal job by 2031 at the age of 43. His strategy revolved around living off savings, investments, and dividends post-retirement to enjoy more time with family and delve into philanthropic ventures. Though new to the Financial Independence, Retire Early (FIRE) movement, Juan's no debt and $85,000 asset accumulation puts him in a favorable position towards achieving his goal​1​.
    • The FIRE Movement: The Financial Independence, Retire Early (FIRE) community exemplifies the synergy between frugal living and early retirement. Members of this movement, like Juan, embody a lifestyle of extreme savings and frugality, aiming to retire much earlier than the conventional age​2​.
  • Young Adults Eyeing Early Retirement: The allure of early retirement isn't confined to older age groups. One in four individuals between 18 to 34 years old has set early retirement as their significant financial milestone, driven by the principles of frugal living and meticulous financial planning​3​.
  • A 5-Year Transition Plan: A couple outlines their 5-year plan towards financial independence, with one partner continuing full-time work for an additional 3-4 years, demonstrating a balanced approach to achieving early retirement while maintaining a comfortable lifestyle​4​.
  • Frugal Living as a Fast Track to Early Retirement: The narrative of saving 75% of income, a hallmark of frugal living, expedites the journey towards early retirement, allowing individuals to accumulate substantial savings, invest wisely, and achieve financial independence sooner​5​.

 

These cases highlight the transformative impact of frugal living and prudent financial planning to achieve early retirement dreams. They speak to the importance of continuous financial plan evaluation, adapting to changing circumstances, and leveraging savings opportunities to expedite the journey to financial independence and early retirement.

 

Conclusion:

The road to early retirement is laden with challenges, primarily stemming from our own financial bad habits. However, if we create a financial plan, adopt a frugal lifestyle, and leverage available resources, overcoming these challenges and retiring early is an achievable goal.

 

 

 

 

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