Making Sure Your Spouse is the MVP of Your Financial Team

Jeff Motske, CFP®

March 10, 2020

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It’s no surprise that I often talk about the need to have a strong, supportive financial team to pursue financial independence. These financial teams can consist of a CPA, an estate planning attorney or a real estate agent, with your trusted financial advisor acting as the general manager of your team. While each one provides a specialized level of expertise, for individuals who are married, there is another person that can make or break your route to financial independence: your spouse. Often, we underestimate the value your spouse brings to your financial house, which is why it is so important to make them the MVP of your financial team.

In order to pursue financial independence, couples must be on the same page and work together towards common goals. For many, though, that is just not the case. Nearly half of U.S. couples argue over finances.[i] These disagreements can be based on resentment over spending rather than saving. Sometimes arguments arise over differing risk tolerance. The heart of these issues lies in goal mismatch, a situation that arises when your combined goals are not aligned. When you and your spouse are not working together towards your combined financial independence, chances of reaching it are slim.

While some couples argue, others simply don’t communicate. Both people in a marriage need to be involved in their finances, agreeing on their financial goals and the steps they’re taking to get there. Being unaware of your financial household, whether it’s because only one person in the relationship is in charge of the household finances or because both parties have decided to keep separate financial lives, simply causes problems. When you don’t know what the other is doing with their money, you can’t be sure that you’re both working towards the same goals in the most effective way. Additionally, you may be setting yourself up for unfortunate complications if your partner unexpectedly passes or becomes incapacitated. Honestly, I’d rather have my clients argue than avoid discussing finances. At least they’re talking about it.

So how do you and your spouse get on the same page? You can start by taking my financial compatibility quiz. Not only will the quiz show you what areas the two of you are like-minded and what areas you need to work on, but it’ll also give you the conversation starters to mine those areas you may not see eye-to-eye on. If you need a little more guidance on what to talk about, you can check out my book, The Couple’s Guide to Financial Compatibility. Also, make sure to get some time for yourself for date night – particularly a Financial Date Night. Make the investment for a babysitter to ensure some consistent quality time where you can have open, honest discussions on big-picture issues and long-term goals. For those really tough topics, you can use a trusted Financial Advisor to help you navigate the conversation.

I am a firm believer in investing in your future. Whether you invest in a book, a babysitter or your time, these investments go a long way to ensure your marital financial health. It’s when you make sure that you’re working together with your spouse that you build a strong and sure route to your financial independence.

[i] https://nypost.com/2017/08/03/the-reasons-most-couples-argue-about-money/

The opinions voiced in this material are for general information only and are not intended to provide specific advice or recommendations for any individual. To determine what is appropriate for you, consult a qualified professional.

1. Taxes

Taxes are a significant expense for everyone, but High-Net-Worth Tax Strategies can help manage and reduce their impact on your wealth. Consider maximizing contributions to retirement accounts like IRAs and 401(k)s for tax advantages, and explore health savings accounts (HSAs) for additional tax benefits.

Key Tax Strategies:

Maximize contributions to tax-advantaged retirement accounts.
Utilize HSAs for medical expenses.
Consult a tax advisor for personalized tax-saving strategies.

2. Credit Cards

High-interest credit card debt can quickly erode your wealth. Implementing a strategic approach to managing credit card debt can help reduce the financial burden and improve your net worth. One effective strategy for managing credit card debt is to use the debt avalanche or snowball methods.

Credit Card Management Strategies:

Use the debt avalanche or snowball methods to pay down high-interest debt.
Consider consolidating debt with a lower-interest personal loan or balance transfer credit card.
Create a disciplined budgeting plan to avoid accumulating new debt.

3. Depreciation

Assets like cars and electronics lose value over time, impacting your wealth. Adopting a ‘buy and hold’ approach and making strategic purchasing decisions can help mitigate the effects of depreciation.

Combating Depreciation:

Keep vehicles for longer periods.
Buy slightly used cars to avoid initial depreciation.
Invest in assets that appreciate or depreciate less over time, such as real estate or classic cars.

4. Market Cyclicality

Market volatility can cause anxiety, but a diversified investment strategy can help manage the risks associated with market fluctuations.

Navigating Market Cyclicality:

Diversify your investments across different asset classes and geographies.
*Implement dollar-cost averaging to manage investment costs.
Consult with a financial advisor to tailor a diversified portfolio.

*Dollar cost averaging involves continuous investment in securities regardless of fluctuation in price levels of such securities. An investor should consider their ability to continue purchasing through fluctuating price levels. Such a plan does not assure a profit and does not protect against loss in declining markets. (67-LPL)

5. Lack of Diversification

Putting all your investments in one basket increases risk. Diversifying your portfolio across various asset classes and sectors can reduce volatility and potential losses.

Diversification Strategies:

Invest in a mix of equities, fixed income, and alternatives.
Use broad market instruments like ETFs or mutual funds.
Regularly review and rebalance your portfolio with a financial advisor.

6. Unexpected Expenses

Unexpected expenses can disrupt your financial plans. Establishing an emergency fund is crucial to cover unforeseen costs without resorting to high-interest debt.

Preparing for Unexpected Expenses:

Build an emergency fund covering 3-6 months’ worth of expenses.
Automate savings to ensure consistent contributions to your emergency fund.
Adjust your budget to prioritize saving for emergencies.

7. Misaligned Investments

Investing without a clear plan can lead to poor financial outcomes. Aligning your investments with your financial goals, risk tolerance, and time horizon is essential.

Aligning Investments:

Define clear investment goals and time horizons.
Educate yourself about different investment types.
Seek personalized advice from a financial advisor to create Custom Investment Strategies.

8. Procrastination

Procrastination can significantly impact your wealth-building efforts. Starting early and setting achievable goals can make a big difference in your financial future.

Overcoming Procrastination:

Set short-term and long-term financial goals.
Use financial tools and apps to automate savings and investments.
Consult a financial advisor to create a tailored financial plan.

9. Lack of Planning

A comprehensive financial plan is the foundation of successful wealth management. An advantage of effective personal financial planning is that it can transform uncertainty into a roadmap for success.

Creating a Financial Plan:

Assess your current financial situation.
Set realistic and specific financial goals.
Develop a plan that allocates resources towards achieving these goals.

10. Lack of Proper Protection

Unexpected life events can derail your financial plans. Proper insurance and estate planning can protect your wealth and provide confidence.

Implementing Proper Protection:

Obtain adequate life, disability, and long-term care insurance.
Create a will and other estate planning documents for Legacy Planning.
Consult with a financial planner to assess your Financial Protection Strategies.

Conclusion

Preventing wealth erosion is as important as building wealth. By addressing these common pitfalls with strategic planning and professional guidance, you can safeguard your financial future. At Trilogy Financial, we specialize in Comprehensive Wealth Management Services, Retirement Planning for High-Net-Worth Individuals, and long term family wealth planning. Our services also include family wealth protection, risk management positions, and Custom Investment Strategies that protect and grow your wealth. Contact us today to learn how we can help you achieve your financial goals and secure a prosperous future.

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*There is no guarantee that a diversified portfolio will enhance overall returns or outperform a non-diversified portfolio. Diversification does not protect against market risk.

Life Planning Advice

When Your Financial Dreams Get in the Way of Your Financial Goals

David McDonough

July 2, 2019

Words are power, and each word has its own weight and energy. Words have inspired people to stand up for what they believe in or hang their head down in defeat. Therefore, choosing the right words to describe that which you want to manifest is very important.

For example, when speaking of aspirations for the future, there are those who use the words dreams and goals interchangeably. However, they ae distinctively different in definition and performance. A dream is boundless, fueled by your passion and imagination. However, it is akin to fantasy, with no immediate call to bring it to life. When someone tells me they dream of owning a sports car or starting their own business, I know most of the work to make that dream a reality hasn’t taken place and probably won’t for the foreseeable future.

A goal, on the other hand, is the mapwork to that dream, concrete and behavior-driven. When you have a goal, you have markers, measurements and steps to get to the destination. Setting the right goals, especially when it pertains to financial goals, can have a significant effect on how and when you achieve them. In fact, a guide to good goal-setting has long been to make it S.M.A.R.T.1:

Specific: if we are truly making a map towards our goals, telling ourselves to go in a general direction or for an undefined distance is most likely only going to get us lost. Steps towards our dreams have to be detailed and specific.

Measurable: When a goal is measurable, there is a way to track your progress to stay motivated or identify issues that may need problem-solving.

Attainable: It is admirable to be striving for something grand and lofty. However, it’s imperative that we have feasible goals that we can accomplish to keep us motivated and actually accomplish said goal.

Relevant: Having impressive goals are fine and dandy, but if they don’t move you closer to your overall goals or work against other goals you may have, it may be time to rethink them.

Time Bound: Once something has been stated as a goal, the stop watch has started. There is an expectation of completion, which is necessary to keep us moving forward towards that goal. It may not get completed in the expected timeframe, but just by having a deadline, we can stay accountable.

Based on this description of a S.M.A.R.T., you can see that there is a difference between, “I’m going to start saving money for a house,” and “I’m going to put 15% of my paycheck into a savings account specifically designated for my eventual down payment, and I should have enough saved after 3 years.” One expresses a desire while the other one lays out a concrete plan to achieve the goal.

If one seems to be fueling the other, how can a dream inhibit a goal? Well, one way is when your lifestyle fits with your dream rather than your goals. To achieve many financial goals like saving for retirement or buying a home, one needs to save and stick to a budget. However, if you fail to save and incrementally work towards the goals, it will take longer and longer to see results. Worse is if you choose to skip the incremental steps and live your dreamer’s lifestyle by using credit cards. The debt you accumulate will take you farther and farther from your goals and possible put you in an unfortunate and stressful predicament.

Sometimes when we haven’t developed a goal for a dream, it’s vagueness can work against an already established goal. Perhaps a good friend asks you to go into business with them. If you choose to pour funds into this new endeavor without any parameters, you may find yourself taking funds away from saving for retirement or depleting savings you already had. Of course, if you had outlined your goal on how to contribute to your friend’s business, with specific and timely parameters, the situation could be completely different.

Please understand that I’m not asking you to stop dreaming. In fact, quite the opposite. I happen wake up every day saying, “Dream Big! Work Hard! Laugh often!” I sign letters and thank you notes and end employee meetings with those very words. Dreaming is important.

So please know I want you to dream big and bold. At the same time, I want you to buckle down and create some S.M.A.R.T. goals to propel you closer to your dreams.

https://www.mindtools.com/pages/article/smart-goals.htm

The opinions voiced in this material are for general information only and are not intended to provide specific advice or recommendations for any individual.