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5 Questions to Ask Yourself Before Writing a Legacy Letter

By Trilogy Financial
February 3, 2025
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Imagine a recipe box that’s been passed down from your great grandmother. It sits on your kitchen counter, full of cards containing not just ingredient lists and cooking instructions,  but handwritten notes detailing memories about each meal. It’s these personal anecdotes that transform food into feeling through stories.

That’s how a legacy letter works. It’s a way to pass on what matters most to you.

What is a Legacy Letter?

Unlike a will that distributes material possessions, a legacy letter, sometimes known as an ethical will, passes on your values, life lessons, hopes, and personal history to future generations. It serves to bridge the gap between the tangible inheritance you might leave behind and the intangible wisdom you've gathered throughout your life.

While a legacy letter can complement a legal will, it should be thought of as a personal document rather than a legal directive. You can consider your legacy letter a conversation across time – a way to share yourself with your great-grandchildren and future generations.

What are the Benefits of Writing a Legacy Letter?

Your legacy letter will benefit both you as the writer and the letter’s recipients. For the writer, it offers the chance to reflect on and crystallize what matters most in your life. We find the process often brings clarity to our clients around their deepest values and the impact they hope their assets will have on their loved ones.

For recipients, your legacy letter can help ground them in their family history, which often gets reduced to dates and basic facts. Through your letter, you give them the gift of context, understanding, and connection. Your legacy letter becomes a way for your perspective and guidance to live on after you’re gone.

What are the Components of a Legacy Letter?

Just like your life, your legacy letter is entirely unique. And while there’s certainly no required formula for one, they most often include the following elements:

  1. Values and Beliefs: Explain not just what you believe in, but why. Share the experiences that challenged or reinforced your values.
  2. Life Lessons: Discuss both your successes and failures. What decisions are you most proud of? What would you do differently? Mistakes and vulnerable moments are often more effective teachers than perfection.
  3. Family Stories: Include meaningful anecdotes about family members, especially those your recipients never met. What family traditions hold special meaning and why?
  4. Hopes for the Future: Express your wishes for future generations without being prescriptive or giving explicit direction. Share the dreams you have for your family’s future.

Who Should You Share Your Legacy Letter With?

Most people write legacy letters primarily for their children and grandchildren, but you might also consider including other family members and close friends.

Having an idea of who your audience will be before you start writing will help you strike the right tone and include the most relevant content. Keep in mind that future generations will likely read your letter as well.

How and When to Share Your Legacy Letter

The timing and method of sharing your legacy letter deserve careful consideration. Some people choose to save their letters to be read after they pass, but there can be profound value in sharing your words and story while you’re still here, particularly during significant life moments such as a child’s graduation, before a wedding, or upon the birth of a grandchild.

If you decide to share your letter while living, you have several options:

Reading it aloud in person allows you to add context and emotion to your words and can lead to meaningful family discussions that encourage others to share their own stories.

Creating individual copies for each recipient lets them absorb your words privately and return to them often. Some people include photos or other meaningful documents alongside their letters.

Recording yourself reading your letter combines your words and your voice into a powerful audio-visual legacy that can also be relistened to as often as the recipient wants.

If you prefer your letter to be shared after your passing, ensure someone you trust knows where to find it and understands your wishes for its distribution. Consider including it with your other important documents or lodging it with your attorney.

Timing isn't just about when others receive your letter; it's also about when you write it. Don't wait for the “perfect” moment or until you feel you have all the answers. Your perspective and wisdom are valuable now, and you can always edit or write additional letters as you gain new insights or want to share different aspects of your story.

How to Get Started: Five Questions to Ask Yourself

Deciding to write your legacy letter is the first step, but it can be challenging to know exactly where to begin. We’ve found these questions help jumpstart the writing process:

  1. What moments of adversity have shaped who you are? Don't just list challenges you've overcome. Dig deeper into how these experiences changed your perspective and influenced your decisions, and share what you learned from your most difficult times that might help future generations navigate their own struggles?
  2. What family traditions or values do you want to share? Think beyond the obvious. Maybe your grandfather's habit of giving anonymous gifts to neighbors in need taught you about quiet generosity, or perhaps your mother's insistence on Sunday dinners wasn't just about food, but about creating unbreakable family bonds.
  3. What parts of your story might be lost if you don't share them? Consider the small but significant moments that shaped your path. Maybe it was a chance encounter that ultimately led you to your career, or a split-second decision that changed everything. It’s these personal details that often get lost in formal family histories but can be incredibly meaningful to future generations.
  4. What do you wish you knew about your own ancestors? Reflect on the questions you have about your family history. What gaps in your own family narrative do you wish were filled? Use these curiosities to guide what you share about yourself.
  5. What misunderstandings about your life choices do you want to clarify? Perhaps you made a later-in-life career change that seemed risky to others, or your decision to end a marriage wasn't fully understood. Your legacy letter offers the opportunity to share your reasoning and the wisdom that guided these choices, but take care not to sound defensive. The goal is to help your loved ones and future generations make their own choices that are best for them.

 

Some people find the thought of writing intimidating, but your legacy letter isn’t about being the most eloquent or perfectly polished. It’s about being authentic and genuine, keeping your audience in mind, and truly reflecting on what matters most in your life.

Start today. Your story matters, and future generations will be grateful you took the time to share it.

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Frugal Money Saver: The Pathway to Early Retirement Through Financial Planning

By Trilogy Financial
February 20, 2024

Have you ever envisioned a life of Financial Freedom and Leisure?

Have you ever envisioned a life where the chains of daily grind are broken well before the conventional retirement age, paving the way for a life of financial freedom and leisure? Embracing financial discipline and frugality can pave the way to a comfortable early retirement, answering the pressing question: Can meticulous financial planning and a frugal lifestyle significantly hasten your journey to early retirement?

 

 

What Makes Financial Planning Crucial?

 

Financial planning goes beyond merely saving a portion of your income; it's about understanding and rectifying financial bad habits that may impede your journey towards financial stability. Everyday financial misbehaviors such as impulsive spending, credit card debt, and the lack of a structured financial plan for emergencies often go unnoticed but have a long-term detrimental impact on financial health. Addressing these personal finance habits is the first step in financial planning.

 

  • Why is Debt Management Essential? A key aspect of financial planning involves managing or eliminating debt, which can otherwise consume a significant portion of your income in the form of interest payments.
    • Did you know in the US for 50-59-year-olds the average debt is $23,719 1.
  • How Can Budgeting Secure Your Financial Future? Being unsure of where your money is going is a red flag. Budgeting is crucial to track and control spending, ensuring your expenditures align with your values.
    • Did you know the average individual aged between 65 to 74 spends about $55,000 on living expenses annually​2​.
  • How do Savings and Investments Impact Your Retirement Goals? Setting aside money for an emergency fund and future investments is essential. Automating this process by having a portion of your income transferred to savings or investment accounts can help in cultivating this good financial habit.
    • Americans believe they need an average of $1.7 million to retire comfortably, although many won't accumulate enough net worth to retire​3​.
    • As of 2019, only 11% of Baby Boomers managed to save up to $500,000 for their retirement​2​.

 

 

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What Does Adopting a Frugal Lifestyle Entail?

Frugality is about making informed and restrained financial decisions to save money. A frugal lifestyle encourages avoiding unnecessary expenses and finding value in what you spend.

 

  • Examples of frugal practices include avoiding spending triggers like malls or online shopping platforms, utilizing cash over credit to prevent overspending, and finding cost-effective alternatives for everyday expenses.

 

 

Did you know 20% of Americans don’t save any amount of their yearly income, and 42% have less than $10,000 saved for retirement​4​.

 

What are the Key Components of Financial Planning for Early Retirement?

 

  • Emergency Fund: Ensuring you have an emergency fund can help buffer against unforeseen circumstances like a job loss or medical crisis, which might otherwise derail your financial plans.
  • Investment Strategy: Diversifying your investments and aligning them with your retirement goals is imperative for financial growth.
    • 84% of Americans have a higher income than their parents did at the same age, indicating potential for savings and investment if managed wisely​4​.
  • Tax Planning: Efficient tax planning can help in preserving your wealth and ensuring more of your money is working for you rather than going towards taxes.
  • Healthcare Planning: As healthcare costs can be exorbitant, planning for these expenses is crucial to avoid financial strain in later years.
    • Healthcare can be a significant part of living expenses, as seen in the $55,000 annual spending for individuals aged 65-74​5​.

 

Which Tools and Resources Can Aid Your Financial Planning Journey?

 

There are myriad tools and resources available to aid in your financial planning journey. Budgeting apps, financial advisors, and online courses are excellent resources. Trilogy Financial, for instance, offers a Decision Coach program designed to provide additional accountability and coaching to individuals seeking financial guidance.

  • 37% of workers aged 25 and older, and 19% of retirees, report not knowing where to go for financial or retirement planning advice​5​.

Easily Meet with a Certified Financial Planner.

 

 

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How Have Others Achieved Financial Independence and Early Retirement?

 

The quest for early retirement often begins with a thorough re-evaluation of one's financial plan, identifying areas of improvement, and capitalizing on unforeseen savings opportunities. The year 2020 saw many Americans saving more, with an average of 10% more money saved compared to 2019, mainly due to lifestyle changes induced by the pandemic. Some redirected these savings towards home improvements, while others saw it as a stepping stone towards drafting a solid financial plan aimed at debt reduction, college planning, or accelerating the journey to financial independence.

 

Various individuals and communities dedicated to frugal living and meticulous financial planning have emerged over the years, showcasing diverse pathways to early retirement. Here are a few noteworthy examples:

 

 

 

  • Juan's Early Retirement Ambition: Juan, an aspiring early retiree, aimed to bid farewell to his federal job by 2031 at the age of 43. His strategy revolved around living off savings, investments, and dividends post-retirement to enjoy more time with family and delve into philanthropic ventures. Though new to the Financial Independence, Retire Early (FIRE) movement, Juan's no debt and $85,000 asset accumulation puts him in a favorable position towards achieving his goal​1​.
    • The FIRE Movement: The Financial Independence, Retire Early (FIRE) community exemplifies the synergy between frugal living and early retirement. Members of this movement, like Juan, embody a lifestyle of extreme savings and frugality, aiming to retire much earlier than the conventional age​2​.
  • Young Adults Eyeing Early Retirement: The allure of early retirement isn't confined to older age groups. One in four individuals between 18 to 34 years old has set early retirement as their significant financial milestone, driven by the principles of frugal living and meticulous financial planning​3​.
  • A 5-Year Transition Plan: A couple outlines their 5-year plan towards financial independence, with one partner continuing full-time work for an additional 3-4 years, demonstrating a balanced approach to achieving early retirement while maintaining a comfortable lifestyle​4​.
  • Frugal Living as a Fast Track to Early Retirement: The narrative of saving 75% of income, a hallmark of frugal living, expedites the journey towards early retirement, allowing individuals to accumulate substantial savings, invest wisely, and achieve financial independence sooner​5​.

 

These cases highlight the transformative impact of frugal living and prudent financial planning to achieve early retirement dreams. They speak to the importance of continuous financial plan evaluation, adapting to changing circumstances, and leveraging savings opportunities to expedite the journey to financial independence and early retirement.

 

Conclusion:

The road to early retirement is laden with challenges, primarily stemming from our own financial bad habits. However, if we create a financial plan, adopt a frugal lifestyle, and leverage available resources, overcoming these challenges and retiring early is an achievable goal.

 

 

 

 

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Goals: The Financial Benchmark that Matters

By
Rebecca DeSoto, CDFA®
March 12, 2018

Each of our lives is comprised of elements that create a story. Our financial lives are no different – the elements include our bank accounts, retirement accounts, mortgages, car loans, student loans, investment accounts, stock options at work, life insurance policies, credit cards, etc. When most people think of their financial life, they think of these elements but have trouble contextualizing them in their overall financial story. All of these elements are simply tools that either help or deter us from our goals. Before analyzing the tools, it’s important to understand why you’re using them and the goals and priorities that create the story which requires them.

One way people analyze these tools is by researching investment returns. Before delving into the world of returns, think about why you are investing in the first place. Your investments should reflect your overall financial priorities. If the risk tolerance in your investment appropriately reflects the time-frame you plan on needing the money, then worrying about investment returns day-to-day can be more of a headache than it’s worth. For example, if you are 35 years old saving for retirement at 60 – you should be aggressively invested if you’re comfortable with that. Because you have 25 years before you plan on using the money, short-term fluctuations in the market shouldn’t really concern you. In fact, if the market does go down and you are still contributing to your retirement, you are technically “buying on sale” – getting more shares for the same dollar value. Contributing to your retirement in up-and-down markets is called “dollar-cost-averaging” – meaning you average out the cost/share of an investment by contributing consistently rather than trying to time the market and invest when you are “buying low”.

There are many benchmarks in the financial industry to compare your investments to and track performance. Some examples include the S&P500 and the Dow Jones Industrial Average for large-cap stocks, the Barclays US Aggregate Bond Index for bonds, and the MSCI Index for international investments. It’s important to understand how your investments are doing in relation to the overall market – it keeps you abreast of what you are investing in and prompts questions you may not ask otherwise – such as what fees you are paying, who’s helping you decide what to invest in, and how much risk you’re taking on compared to the benchmarks you’re using as a comparison. However, the benchmark you should habitually pay more attention to than any other is your particular goal with each investment and your overall goals in terms of building wealth.

Focusing on investment returns only paints half of the picture when tracking progress because it is completely out of your control. If you can confidently say your investments are well diversified and invested according to a risk-tolerance you are comfortable with, there is a much more important benchmark to track than returns. Instead of relying on your investment vehicles to do all the heavy-lifting, you should use your investment behavior as the ultimate indicator to determine if you’re making progress or need more work. What are the financial goals you have in mind? To retire by 55? To save for a second down payment on a house? To pay off your mortgage? Help your children pay for their college tuition? Protect your investments and family in case of a long-term illness? Reduce credit cards and student loans? Build emergency savings?

When you are focused on goal-based financial planning, there are a lot of benchmarks to concern yourself with other than the hype involved in investment performance. Are you saving more this year than you were last year? Did you increase your savings rate when you received a raise? Does the money you are spending appropriately reflect the values and priorities that are most important to you? Are you using extra income to increase investments and decrease liabilities? By focusing on why you’re investing in the first place and the priorities that matter to you, it’s easier to ask the right questions and monitor progress. Once you know what you’re shooting for, a Decision Coach can help you understand the appropriate tools to get there.

The Standard & Poor’s 500 Index is a capitalization weighted index of 500 stocks designed to measure performance of the broad domestic economy through changes in the aggregate market value of 500 stocks representing all major industries.

The Dow Jones Industrial Average is comprised of 30 stocks that are major factors in their industries and widely held by individuals and institutional investors.

The Bloomberg Barclays U.S. Aggregate Bond Index is an index of the U.S. investment-grade fixed-rate bond market, including both government and corporate bonds.

The MSCI EAFE Index is a free float-adjusted market capitalization index that is designed to measure the equity market performance of developed markets, excluding the US & Canada. The MSCI EAFE Index consists of the following developed country indices: Australia, Austria, Belgium, Denmark, Finland, France, Germany, Hong Kong, Ireland, Israel, Italy, Japan, the Netherlands, New Zealand, Norway, Portugal, Singapore, Spain, Sweden, Switzerland and the UK.

Each index is an unmanaged index which cannot be invested into directly. Unmanaged index returns do not reflect fees, expenses, or sales charges. Index performance is not indicative of the performance of any investment. Past performance is no guarantee of future results.

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